"In person he is unimpressive and his speaking amounts to nothing..."

 According to II Corinthians 10:10, that is what they said about the Apostle Paul...you know the guy that wrote all those books in the New Testament.

So, why are those of us in ministry surprised when we or our ministry....or both are criticized?

Some things to do and remember when you receive criticism:

1.  FIRST, consider the source.  Is it coming from someone who cares about you and your ministry?  Or, is it from someone who has no direct connection and may not even have correct information?

2.  Avoid the two extremes:  You can take it all to heart and let it burn a hole in your soul.  Or, you can immediately and totally ignore it.  Maybe, there is something you can learn from it.  So, hear it first and then decide to consider it or ignore it.  Maybe, skip down and read number 7 now.

3.  Consider but avoid dwelling on it.  If there is something to learn there, then take it in.....and that can come from even an unfriendly source.

4.  Consider if that criticism comes as a result of a lack of communication on your part.  Do people outside the ministry know what is going on?  Are your stakeholders well informed?

5.  One good rule is, "If it is anonymous, then it is not worth your consideration."  I have a friend who pastored a large church.  He got an anonymous letter full of criticism.  So, at a worship service he said he had received a letter that was not signed and therefore he could not respond to it.  So, he read it out loud to the entire congregation and responded.  I like that...don't you?  Remember:  Anonymous letters or second hand unnamed critics mean to hurt....that is their purpose and goal.  They are not to inform or give helpful feedback.  Their purpose is to sting.  When you remember that, it is easier to ignore them.

6.  Some criticism comes from a lack of balance.  One of the really difficult things about college ministry is we have some many different things we are supposed to do.  It is easy to get over one end and neglect the other side.  And with all College Ministers have to do, you will never have perfect balance.

7.  If you cannot let go of it, share it with someone you know who cares about you and your ministry and ask them if there is anything there you need to hear.

One last word:  If you hear a fellow minister being criticized unfairly or due to incorrect information, speak up on their behalf.  I know a person saved my bacon like this in a public meeting one time.  The critic had me confused with someone else.  Speak up!

Finally, the guy who they said was "unimpressive and his speaking amounts to nothing" had a pretty fruitful and successful ministry.  So keep on!

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